Why Accelerated Personalised Development?

Why the term ‘Accelerated Personalised Development’? As you may have seen from the brief discussion our home page, answering the question “What do you do?” doesn’t seem quite so straight forward for us.

So if you have time, here’s a 33 minute video recorded at The Best You Expo 2017, where Andy describes how and why we arrived at this powerful methodology and why it is different to other personal development offerings. If you don’t have time to watch the video now, then read on.

Marketeers say that we need to keep descriptions really short, tight, clear, snappy, attractive etc. etc. That’s marketing for you!  Life really isn’t that simple. We say beware of people offering you very simple yet powerful generic personal development solutions – they usually don’t have a lasting effect once the hype has worn off…

We are in the business of human behaviour, people and relationship dynamics – these appear to be anything but simple! Indeed they are largely unfathomable to the vast majority of us.

This isn’t at all surprising as:

  • We all have very different character/personality/temperaments, much of which is hidden in our sub-conscious.
  • This isn’t taught to us in school.

The good news is that we have greatly simplified and systematised the understanding of people, relationships and human potential.

  • The system starts by focusing on you and the most important relationship – the one that you have with yourself.
  • We take our clients through a unique discovery process – developing much greater self-awareness, self-mastery, awareness of others and mastery in relationships.
  • We have systemised and condensed 24 years of combined experience and the study of many different human potential disciplines into a cohesive and structured process and framework.

Accelerated Personalised DevelopmentWe have incorporated the most powerful aspects of:

  • Self-help and personal development.
  • Overcoming fear and embracing change.
  • Personality, ego and behavioural sciences.
  • Life coaching, executive coaching, relationship coaching and mentoring.
  • Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).
  • Positive psychology.
  • And some neuroscience too!

These we have distilled down into an easy to understand process that is tailored to you as a unique individual.

Breakthrough Experience

Andy & DiWe call this process our Breakthrough Experience. This is usually delivered over a two to four day ‘immersion experience’ for individuals or couples, in our own home. It can also be completed over a longer period for larger teams, group workshops or as a distance learning programme.

We are not to lie and say that the BreakThrough Experience isn’t challenging – it is! It’s meant to be. We guide you through the process in an honest and empathic way, bearing our own souls, egoic challenges and learning too as we go. It is conducted in a relaxed and safe manner.

During a BreakThrough Experience, you discover key aspects of your personality and your potential. You will also identify and start to remove the hidden, subconscious blocks that can hold you back from achieving your potential. We provide you with a packaged framework of tools and understanding which you can continue to use and apply to your life.

We have named this framework Accelerated Personalised Development. We also use a few other phrases to help to convey what we do i.e. Emotional Intelligence, Authentic Transformation and Holistic. These are explained below, so if you’d like more detail please read on.

What We Do – In More Detail

emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence is one of the most important, yet often overlooked aspects of success. It has been defined as:

  1. Knowing and managing your emotions.
  2. Motivating yourself.
  3. Recognising and understanding other people’s emotions.
  4.  Managing relationships.

caucasian-man-holding-two-silver-metal-gearwheels-up-to-eye-against-blue-background-uid-1172851We think it’s much MORE than this. It starts with self-awareness – more than just emotions – it is an awareness of a whole way of being and a ‘model of the world‘ that makes you who you are – distinctly different from most other people. This includes your key character traits and especially your distinct ego-type.

When you start to appreciate your own and other people’s distinctly different models of the world, and you learn to accept them rather than find them challenging, you develop true empathy and experience vastly improved relationships and teamwork.

If you’d like to know more, here is a short article we’ve written that introduces the importance and impact of Emotional Intelligence. If you have an interest in the worlds of Psychology, Human Resources and/or Organisational Development, then this second post on Emotional Intelligence, linking it to some of the academic research and to the Johari Window, might be of interest to you.

It has been said that a high IQ will get you through school; a high EQ will get you through life.

Authentic Transformation

As we have seen above, we each have a very different character or personality and internal ‘model of the world’. These differences can be quite challenging to us, especially as we grow up and try to find our place in the world. The pressure to ‘fit in’ and the academic, social and cultural pressure to conform, can leave us feeling lost, confused, adrift, misunderstood and disconnected.

The EnneagramWe are not all born identical. We are given/inherit different psychological traits (nature) which are then shaped by our life experiences (nurture). There are many different models and psychometric assessments that attempt to measure and make sense of these traits (too many to mention). These are mainly aimed at identifying strengths, weaknesses for job suitability, leadership potential and training needs analysis.

A different, and we believe more complete and more powerful model of understanding the human condition is The Enneagram. The Enneagram is a model for understanding human behaviour. It is based on nine distinctly different internal models of the world – akin to our character or personality – the nine Enneatypes. Much of the distinctiveness of our behaviour, motivation and the way that we see and react to the world around us is based on these Enneatypes. Each of us also has a range of emotional states, also referred to as levels of wellbeing, resourcefulness or resilience. The Enneagram is unique in linking these two dimensions of behaviour and motivation (emotional state and underlying personality/egotype).

Our egos develop early in life. As we collect life experiences, we develop coping strategies to deal with perceived challenges, attacks and losses. Our ego exists to try to keep us feeling safe, happy and loved. It is quite selfish and self-centred in this respect. Very quickly, in the face of life’s challenges, we start to compete for love and attention. To avoid feeling bad or unhappy, our ego quickly confuses safety, happiness and love with the need to feel right (or not wrong or judged), this leads to many different egoic coping strategies such as:

  • Pleasing others too much.
  • Striving to be perfect.
  • Winning at all costs.
  • Over-analysing things.
  • Avoiding change.
  • Attention seeking.
  • Giving and caring; putting ourselves last, playing the martyr.
  • Avoidant behaviour; sitting on the fence; not wanting to rock the boat.
  • Not being fully present; the grass always seems greener on the other side or in the future.

  • An addiction to drama and a victim mentality.
  • Laughing things off with humour to avoid pain and anything too serious.
  • Striving to be the life and soul of the party.
  • Judging others to feel right and righteous.
  • Arrogance, narcissism and a lack of humility and/or empathy.
  • Procrastination (due to fear of failure, perfectionism, withdrawal, laziness or sticking within our comfort zone).
  • Bullying and taking control.
  • Being chameleon-like to connect with or try to impress others.
  • An unwillingness to put boundaries down.


out of boxThese are some of the most common tricks of the ego, also known as ‘the shadow side’ – we all have one! They are part of our internal model of the world. Each of us will have a natural tendency to be drawn towards some of these behaviours. The above-listed patterns of behaviour group together into natural patterns – the nine egotypes/Enneatypes.

Note: your ego, won’t want to admit to these traits, so will quite likely use some of the above strategies as a distraction from the truth. Be mindful of what comes up for you when you consider whether you do any of these.

Don’t think that typing your personality and establishing your Enneatype is putting you in a box or limiting you in any way. On the contrary, it highlights your previously hidden shadow side and the box that you are unconsciously operating from, so that you can take down the walls and limitations it creates for you.

The great news, is that with each of the Enneatypes, comes particular natural gifts, talents and strengths, which in turn underpin an authentic vocation and sense of purpose. Some of them are: the inspiring and visionary leader, the emotionally intelligent supporter and relationship expert, the sage philosopher, the risk manager and trouble-shooter, the iconoclast, the champion and challenger, the mediator, the driven achiever, the sales and marketing champion, the intuitive original creator, the objective observer, the reforming crusader, the systematic analyst, the facilitator, the enthusiast, the fearless warrior/leader and protector of the underdog, the patient diplomat.

Read our article ‘The most empowering question you can ask yourself – Who am I?‘ to learn more about the power of the Enneagram.

Our BreakThrough Experience process and Accelerated Personalised Development framework allows you to breakthrough what has been holding you back, whilst connecting to a congruent direction and purpose in life with a high degree of confidence and alignment to your values and purpose.

Holistic and Humanistic

Holistic – characterized by the belief that the parts of something are intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole.
Humanism is a psychological perspective that emphasizes the study of the whole person. Humanistic psychologists look at human behaviour not only through the eyes of the observer, but through the eyes of the person doing the behaving.

Our process is unapologetically holistic and humanistic because:

  • We build a comprehensive understanding of who you are from a behavioural and motivational perspective. Think of this as your essence, your soul and your operating system.
  • We have taken the key learning from many different personal development, psychological and spiritual disciplines and firstly distilled them down into a single process. This is no one-trick pony or over-hyped ‘magic bullet’. Our process tailors all this wisdom to who you are, rather than you having to spend many years trying to work out what’s right for you and how best to apply it to your life.
  • This works on the key areas of your life: happiness, spiritual and emotional wellbeing, relationships and purpose.
  • We incorporate the male and female perspective, balancing the masculine and the feminine, the rational, the intuitive and empathic.
  • The process is free of dogma, ritual and (as far as possible) bias.

By now, you are hopefully starting to appreciate why and how our approach, developed over the past six years, based on 25 years combined experience, is both unique and truly transformational.

Accelerated Personalised Development

Accelerated Personalised Development – the Key Benefits

  • Condensed and cost effective – learn it from one source, in a short amount of time. Learn skills for a life-long journey.
  • Highly tailored to who you are, removing the ‘hit and miss’, the pitfalls, blind alleys and u-turns of the typical self-help journey.
  • Build upon, personalise, remove doubt and contradiction to accelerate and make sense of your self-development journey to this point.
  • Congruent for you. It becomes natural and easy to commit to the changes you decide to make.


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