Personality & Behaviour

Personality and behaviour

Behaviour can be viewed as personality expressed through the lens of emotional state.
This complex combination of personality and state is also referred to as our ‘temperament’ or ‘character’.

personality nature vs nurtureOur personalities are formed partly by nature and partly as a result of nurture. The general consensus amongst most psychologists is that our personalities are 50% genetically determined and 50% learned. The world would be very dull if we were all born the same!

Many of the learned aspects of our temperament are our coping strategies for life, acquired at a very early age. Imagine being born helpless, experiencing unconditional love and nurturing. You utter your first word, crawl and take your first steps, to the tumultuous praise and encouragement of those adults around you…

personality and the brain quadrants…You learn simple sentences, start toddling, can throw a tantrum, refuse your food, maybe a new baby arrives on the scene. The rug is pulled from under you. You are told ‘NO’ hundreds of times a week. This is how our ego starts to form. We take it with us into childhood and teenage years – it protects us, keeps us safe and tries to avoid pain. We can’t wait to jump into this goldfish bowl that becomes our reality.

The EGO vs. Personality

The ego, also referred to as the ‘shadow self’ becomes a protective mask or cloak. We may exhibit different aspects of our egoic cloak, to varying degrees in different situations, depending on who we are with and how we are feeling.  Ask yourself, are you the same person at home, at work, with family, on holiday…?

Our ego wants us to feel happy and loved. However, it confuses this with being safe and being right – or more specifically not feeling wrong or wronged. A merry dance of emotions and coping strategies ensue.

brain plasticityOur behaviour and our personality are capable of far more flexibility than most people, even most psychologists and psychometrists recognise. Yet our ego likes to stick to default behaviour and avoid uncharted territory. Hence, our ego masks our authenticity and our true potential by keeping us stuck in our ‘comfort zone’ (however uncomfortable!).

fish out of water - break free to your higher potentialHidden beneath the seemingly complex layers of ego is the authentic you, some people refer to it as your ‘higher self’. It is entirely possible to unlearn and let go of your egoic conditioning, find your authentic self and connect to your potential.

The Enneagram of Egotypes and PRISM Brain Mapping

Initially this may feel strange – like a fish out of water. Our speciality is to support you through this process with an integrated set of tools including, the Enneagram and PRISM personality and behavioural analysis tools. It is entirely possible to get to the point where being your authentic self in all situations feels effortless, congruent and normal. At this point, running old egoic patterns feels like hard work! So why would you do it any more?

The important thing is to become aware of your ego, how it affects your state and how if can affect others around you. This is the basis for emotional intelligence.

Emotional Intelligence and behavioural flexibility are the keys to success.


PRISM & the Enneagram



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