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50 Keys to Unlocking Your Relationship Potential

Diane Nicholson

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The missing link in personal development today…

Diane Nicholson

Embracing the Shadow, and why no one wants to talk about it. Watch our short video below.

We do want to talk about it, and we want to share with you what an incredible difference it makes.

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No one wants to talk about this… but why?

Diane Nicholson

There was a wise little acorn who fell off an oak tree. He found himself among all the other little acorns who were also laying on the ground. Each little acorn had a feeling that they were destined for something special, but they didn’t quite know what. So they set about working hard to develop their potential. They began doing all they could to become shiny… They were attending workshops called ‘Make the Best of Your Shell’, where they learned how to wipe away dust when it settled on them. The little acorns felt wonderful with bright, shiny shells for a few days… until the next heavy rainfall came, splattering them with mud and making their shells dull again. So they went about finding the next shell-development workshop which would remind them how to shine their shells again… and the process would repeat over and over again.

The wise little acorn watched this endless game of shell-shining, and then one day he sat down with the other acorns and said: Read More →

The way you’re attracted into a relationship can often provide vital clues as to the outcome…

Diane Nicholson

Have you ever really thought about the way in which you set out to attract a new partner, or the way in which you find yourself being attracted into a new relationship? It’s such a vital element to think about, because ultimately, it can tell you so much about the kind of relationship that is likely to unfold.

It works for both sexes equally, and there are very few people who haven’t exhibited one or more of the patterns shared in this article in the search for love. Quite simply, we all respond to the stimuli around us – men and women alike. We all set out to stimulate and be stimulated in the search for love.

Infatuation can so easily blind us to reality. When someone makes us feel good, we often can’t see beyond that and only consider the surface level experience which feels great, in other words “Fantastic! Someone likes me!” Sometimes we quite literally can’t see the wood for the trees. We don’t look beneath the surface for vital signs of what this tells us about who they actually are as an individual, or at the clues as to what this means for the relationship itself should we choose to embark on it. Instead we subconsciously ignore it. This is called willful blindness. Added to this, we also tend to think we can change people, or that people will change through our love.

It goes without saying that the points we’ve raised below are not in any way set in stone. This is simply an awareness, something to think about.

Having worked closely with the Enneagram types for many years now, we’ve outlined in this article some very real scenarios that specific Enneatypes will play subconsciously as part of their default behavioural patterns. Many people tell us that they tend to keep attracting the same type of partner, and therefore these patterns keep playing, over and over again.

So here we go… Read More →

How to build an ‘affair-proof’ relationship…

Diane Nicholson

Firstly, it’s important to point out that there is no absolute way of guaranteeing an affair proof relationship. There are many factors to take into account; who your partner is as an individual, how they feel about themselves which will often determine how responsive they are to attention from others, whether they maintain healthy boundaries, and how drawn they are to variety, to name but a few. If these aren’t regularly occurring issues, then there are some fundamental things that every couple can do to make their relationship as strong and ‘affair proof’ as possible.

Affairs generally tend to begin when one partner’s needs are not being met within the relationship. Yet how many of us don’t even know what our own needs are, never mind our partner’s?

And then there’s the issue of communicating your needs… to many that may seem selfish. Or perhaps we feel our partner should just know what they are.

Unfortunately not… Read More →

Level 5 Leadership

Andrew

I am currently reading ‘Good To Great’ by Jim Collins, a book about what makes a truly and sustainably ‘great’ company.

I love that this book is based on in-depth and holistic research, not opinion. The research didn’t set out to prove any point, rather to unearth the true generic success factors, whatever they may be.

One of the key factors the research team identified is what they have called Level 5 Leaders. These leaders invest in people, build talented teams, move people into optimum roles and empower others. Level 5 leaders are: largely free of ego, are often recruited from within the company, are not threatened by the success of others and don’t claim the glory for themselves.

“Level 5 leaders channel their ego needs away from themselves and into the larger goal of building a great company’.

What is fascinating, is that they study compared these truly ‘great’ companies, ones that out-performed the stock market by a factor of 7 (700%) over a 15 year period, as compared to a peer group of ‘direct comparison’ companies. Whilst those direct comparison companies may have had periods of great success, it was not sustainable. Much of this was attributable to leadership style. Read More →