Results for category "Personality & Behaviour"

Taming the ‘ego machine’

Diane Nicholson

Our ego is a machine. It’s a machine that works to a specific routine.

It has a specific set of values, a specific motivating drive, a specific set of fears, rules, beliefs…

We don’t see our machine, because at the same time as you might say – it is within or inside us, we are also are inside it. We are unconsciously looking, sensing and interpreting through our structured ego-filters, which shape what we think we see and experience. It is like being on auto-pilot.

Yet there is another, bigger part of us, you might call it ‘soul’, ‘higher-self’, or our conscious self, that is tied in our ego-machine for the duration of our lives.

The more offended we feel by being told we are a machine, the more blind to our machine we become. This is how the ego-machine works. It is a clever little critter…

Within us, the soul and machine often go unwittingly into battle because they cannot see one another. Heart over head, head over heart, head over gut-instinct… our machine plays out its game, repeating patterns over and over again, dragging our soul along for the ride…

Other machines of different types, with different operating systems, come into contact with us every day. Some will offend us with their differences, and others will please us with their similarities and/or compliments. Read More →

Left Brain vs Right Brain

Andrew

Here’s a short video worth watching. I’m not sure if the focus on left brain and IQ is a conspiracy – it could be. I have no doubt that many social/political/economic systems are left brained biased, which does in turn cause a lot of issues. More balance, more EQ (emotional intelligence) and more feminine characteristics and energy could go a long way to creating a better world.

In terms of left brain vs right brain and IQ vs EQ – more balance, more EQ (emotional intelligence) and more feminine characteristics and energy could go a long way to creating a better world.

Flexibility of behaviour and self-awareness are two of the major keys to success and happiness. Self-awareness is also the foundation of emotional intelligence, which in turn is one of the biggest success factors in personal effectiveness, management and leadership.

If you want to explore your natural brain and behavioural preferences and find your opportunities to grow and become more balanced and flexible – then we have the solutions – contact us to discuss or chat to us using the chat widget if we are online now.

As relationship mentors we educate our clients on the masculine and feminine and how to develop both aspects of themselves and use them to greatest effect in relationships.

Where our clients want to look at their career/career progression, vocation and direction in life, sense of purpose and direction, then PRISM Brain Mapping can help.

Check out our PRISM Brain Mapping page.

Why Accelerated Personalised Development?

Andrew

Why the term ‘Accelerated Personalised Development’? As you may have seen from the brief discussion our home page, answering the question “What do you do?” doesn’t seem quite so straight forward for us.

So if you have time, here’s a 33 minute video recorded at The Best You Expo 2017, where Andy describes how and why we arrived at this powerful methodology and why it is different to other personal development offerings. If you don’t have time to watch the video now, then read on.

Marketeers say that we need to keep descriptions really short, tight, clear, snappy, attractive etc. etc. That’s marketing for you!  Life really isn’t that simple. We say beware of people offering you very simple yet powerful generic personal development solutions – they usually don’t have a lasting effect once the hype has worn off…

We are in the business of human behaviour, people and relationship dynamics – these appear to be anything but simple! Indeed they are largely unfathomable to the vast majority of us.

This isn’t at all surprising as:

  • We all have very different character/personality/temperaments, much of which is hidden in our sub-conscious.
  • This isn’t taught to us in school.

The good news is that we have greatly simplified and systematised the understanding of people, relationships and human potential.

  • The system starts by focusing on you and the most important relationship – the one that you have with yourself.
  • We take our clients through a unique discovery process – developing much greater self-awareness, self-mastery, awareness of others and mastery in relationships.
  • We have systemised and condensed 24 years of combined experience and the study of many different human potential disciplines into a cohesive and structured process and framework.

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Our two workshops at The Best You Expo March 2017 London

Andrew

Come an join us at the UK’s biggest and best Personal Development event – The Best You Expo, ExCel London, 4-5 March 2017.

The Best You ExpoWe are exhibiting and giving two workshops:

Workshop One –  4th March 13:00
Accelerated Personalised Development – Workshop Room 2

Personal Development has much to offer. Success, happiness, resilience, personal mastery, being at peace, wealth, the list goes on.

However, the pathway is far from clear.

Where to start, what direction to take, which philosophies to study, which teachers to engage? Read More →

The Best You

Andrew

Do you want to become The Best You?

  • Do you want to achieve permanent, positive change?
  • Are you still searching to find the real you?
  • Are loving relationships and lasting happiness passing you by?
  • Do you lack purpose and direction?

Perhaps you’ve read the self-help books, watched the videos and attended the events, but you still can’t find your path to self-fulfilment and happiness?

The Best You ExpoWe’ve found the solution you’ve been searching for, and we want to share it with you.

We are husband and wife team Andrew and Diane Nicholson from Connect To Your Potential. We’d like to invite you to come and meet us, plus here our two talks at the UK’s biggest personal development event – The Best You Expo, which takes place on Sat-Sun 4-5th March 2017 at ExCel London. We are on Stand 26b.

Here’s the link to our speaker biography page, plus some of our credentials: Read More →

The Myth of Normal

Andrew

‘Society generates (mental) pathology’ – i.e. much of it is avoidable. I have a lot of time for this point of view. Here’s (in my view) a great video on the subject:

I am no clinician, but have studied wellbeing from many different angles. As such I am more than sceptical about much of the medical ‘industry’ when it comes to diagnosis of mental health conditions and the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders).

Dr. Gabor Maté talks about many conditions that are diagnosed as abnormal (such as anxiety, depression, addiction…), as being on a continuum much of which could/should be considered normal.

Normal is worse than over-rated as a  concept – it is dangerous.

Having worked with many hundreds of clients on their Read More →

Have you stopped growing up?

Andrew

I’ve just started watching a fascinating programme on Channel 4 about the developmental psychology of 4, 5 and 6 year olds.

Here’s the thing. I watched it after watching an episode of the Apprentice on BBC iPlayer. The patterns of behaviour were remarkably similar! Defensiveness, entitlement, boys vs. girls, bravado….

It begs the question – how grown up are you? When did we stop growing up? How much more growing up is possible/desirable?

Adolescent Minds

It is my contention that most of us are adolescent minds and souls – struggling in an adult body and world Read More →

A reflection on Coaching vs Mentoring + Awareness

Andrew

Having always had an interest in ‘what makes us tick’, over the past 30 years I have formally and informally studied many aspects of human behaviour and performance. As I write this, I have just turned 50 years young. Upon reaching the age of 39, I came to the realisation that life wasn’t going how I wanted it to, not that I had much of a plan. I experienced a year of intense frustration – post-divorce, post-redundancy, and at a time when it became apparent that I needed to change what I was doing in order to get different results – certainly from a relationship and a career perspective. I didn’t know what I wanted to do – just that I don’t want more of the same…

During this time, I re-connected with an old friend – I shall call him Ali. He had been through similarly challenging times. After listening to my tale of woe, he suggested getting into personal development, in order to develop some new perspectives on life. I went along to monthly personal development groups in Birmingham and listened to a different speaker reach month on a wide variety of subjects including: health, wealth, positive thinking and relationships. This gradually helped me to reflect on my state of ‘woe’ and upon my potential for much greater things.

reflection ~

  • The throwing back by a body or surface of light, heat, or sound without absorbing it.
  • Serious thought or consideration.

These ‘PD’ meetings gave me the lift and the kick I needed. They opened up my thinking, got me focused on new possibilities and motivated to change. Read More →

When positive thinking is simply papering over the cracks…

Andrew

By Diane Nicholson (originally posted on Di’s Blog December 2013)

A few years ago I discovered that I am an Enneagram type Two. The Enneagram is an ancient wisdom which teaches about the 9 ways of ‘being’ and perceiving life. It was created mainly for the egoic traits that arise through each type. Each of the 9 types are different, but have pretty much default and predictable behavioural patterns, and between them they make up humanity. When you understand this, you tend to understand why so many people feel so easily offended or can be judgemental in today’s society… it’s because we are all so different whilst telling each other ‘Be like me, be like me!’ rather than ‘Be like you, be like you!’

These days, the Enneagram has become so sugar-coated to make it socially acceptable so that it doesn’t offend the fragile egos of those who would have to face the truth about how they show up at times, the patterns they play on themselves and others, and how they hold themselves back. With this sugar-coating, the wisdom and potential the Enneagram contains becomes hugely diluted. You see, you cannot hold back from seeing the complete truth about how your ego shows up, then also expect to recognise and break through the patterns of that same ego. Because you cannot break through what you cannot see.

One of the things I discovered about being a Two… Read More →

Taking Responsibility for your Feelings

Andrew

Imagine you are like a TV set. Everything that appears on your screen is set by your remote control – your channel, volume, brightness, contrast… everything. This remote belongs to you – it was made specifically for your set and works with no other TV.

Everything that displays on your screen is the frequency you choose for yourself, which then projects your programme, sound, energy and waves into the world.

Now imagine readily handing over your remote control to another, so that they can decide this for you, and instead of you…

You simply wouldn’t do that, would you?

Good! Ok, now that we’ve established that, you’re saying that no one else decides how you feel at any given time, right?

‘No?’ So others do have the power affect your feelings – to bring you down, raise you up, make you feel bad, make you angry, sad?

Thing is…  Read More →