Author: Diane Nicholson

Published: 10 articles and projects

Why relationships can be scary for women…

Diane Nicholson

When a man chooses to step up and become fully present for the woman he loves, he reaps great rewards from the relationship. Likewise, if he chooses not to, he is likely to face some of the situations men want to run from most… until he does step up, that is.

When a man is not being entirely honest with a woman, she will generally pick up on this as an unsettled feeling within her, even though she may not be able to pinpoint exactly why she feels that way. A woman will sense his underlying motives over and above his words, and if something about the two don’t feel congruent to her, then her head and heart with go into battle as she tries to figure out what her amber warning signal is trying to tell her. When a woman ceases to trust her own intuition and thinking, it can result in a change in her behaviour. Read More →

Taming the ‘ego machine’

Diane Nicholson

Our ego is a machine. It’s a machine that works to a specific routine.

It has a specific set of values, a specific motivating drive, a specific set of fears, rules, beliefs…

We don’t see our machine, because at the same time as you might say – it is within or inside us, we are also are inside it. We are unconsciously looking, sensing and interpreting through our structured ego-filters, which shape what we think we see and experience. It is like being on auto-pilot.

Yet there is another, bigger part of us, you might call it ‘soul’, ‘higher-self’, or our conscious self, that is tied in our ego-machine for the duration of our lives.

The more offended we feel by being told we are a machine, the more blind to our machine we become. This is how the ego-machine works. It is a clever little critter…

Within us, the soul and machine often go unwittingly into battle because they cannot see one another. Heart over head, head over heart, head over gut-instinct… our machine plays out its game, repeating patterns over and over again, dragging our soul along for the ride…

Other machines of different types, with different operating systems, come into contact with us every day. Some will offend us with their differences, and others will please us with their similarities and/or compliments. Read More →

Why Acknowledging and Sharing your Intimate Relationship Needs is Vital to a Happy Relationship

Diane Nicholson

There are ten fundamental intimate relationship needs which are expected to be met exclusively by your partner when that union is entered into. These needs determine the difference between a relationship and a friendship, yet generally, they remain unspoken. Most people have never taken the time to identify their own needs, never mind share them with their partner.

The resulting lack of communication means that neither partner’s needs are met within the relationship, so one or both view the other as a source of frustration rather than love.

These 10 needs will vary in priority for each individual in the relationship, and Read More →

One Man’s Journey – A Beautiful Breakthrough

Diane Nicholson

Andy and I have recently enjoyed the most beautiful Breakthrough Experience with a client. His name is Terry, he’s 42, and he’s given us full permission to share his story.

Terry flew up to Inverness for his 48 hour Breakthrough not really knowing quite what to expect. He’d been experiencing issues in his relationships; they never seemed to last. He knew women were drawn to him, but they soon began to get disgruntled, then he would find himself doing anything and everything he could to sabotage and escape the relationship. This pattern kept repeating itself, even though he had been dating some really wonderful women.

At 42, he felt it was time to sort these issues out once and for all. Read More →

50 Keys to Unlocking Your Relationship Potential

Diane Nicholson

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The missing link in personal development today…

Diane Nicholson

Embracing the Shadow, and why no one wants to talk about it. Watch our short video below.

We do want to talk about it, and we want to share with you what an incredible difference it makes.

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No one wants to talk about this… but why?

Diane Nicholson

There was a wise little acorn who fell off an oak tree. He found himself among all the other little acorns who were also laying on the ground. Each little acorn had a feeling that they were destined for something special, but they didn’t quite know what. So they set about working hard to develop their potential. They began doing all they could to become shiny… They were attending workshops called ‘Make the Best of Your Shell’, where they learned how to wipe away dust when it settled on them. The little acorns felt wonderful with bright, shiny shells for a few days… until the next heavy rainfall came, splattering them with mud and making their shells dull again. So they went about finding the next shell-development workshop which would remind them how to shine their shells again… and the process would repeat over and over again.

The wise little acorn watched this endless game of shell-shining, and then one day he sat down with the other acorns and said: Read More →

The way you’re attracted into a relationship can often provide vital clues as to the outcome…

Diane Nicholson

Have you ever really thought about the way in which you set out to attract a new partner, or the way in which you find yourself being attracted into a new relationship? It’s such a vital element to think about, because ultimately, it can tell you so much about the kind of relationship that is likely to unfold.

It works for both sexes equally, and there are very few people who haven’t exhibited one or more of the patterns shared in this article in the search for love. Quite simply, we all respond to the stimuli around us – men and women alike. We all set out to stimulate and be stimulated in the search for love.

Infatuation can so easily blind us to reality. When someone makes us feel good, we often can’t see beyond that and only consider the surface level experience which feels great, in other words “Fantastic! Someone likes me!” Sometimes we quite literally can’t see the wood for the trees. We don’t look beneath the surface for vital signs of what this tells us about who they actually are as an individual, or at the clues as to what this means for the relationship itself should we choose to embark on it. Instead we subconsciously ignore it. This is called willful blindness. Added to this, we also tend to think we can change people, or that people will change through our love.

It goes without saying that the points we’ve raised below are not in any way set in stone. This is simply an awareness, something to think about.

Having worked closely with the Enneagram types for many years now, we’ve outlined in this article some very real scenarios that specific Enneatypes will play subconsciously as part of their default behavioural patterns. Many people tell us that they tend to keep attracting the same type of partner, and therefore these patterns keep playing, over and over again.

So here we go… Read More →

How to build an ‘affair-proof’ relationship…

Diane Nicholson

Firstly, it’s important to point out that there is no absolute way of guaranteeing an affair proof relationship. There are many factors to take into account; who your partner is as an individual, how they feel about themselves which will often determine how responsive they are to attention from others, whether they maintain healthy boundaries, and how drawn they are to variety, to name but a few. If these aren’t regularly occurring issues, then there are some fundamental things that every couple can do to make their relationship as strong and ‘affair proof’ as possible.

Affairs generally tend to begin when one partner’s needs are not being met within the relationship. Yet how many of us don’t even know what our own needs are, never mind our partner’s?

And then there’s the issue of communicating your needs… to many that may seem selfish. Or perhaps we feel our partner should just know what they are.

Unfortunately not… Read More →

Let go and make 2015 as uncomplicated as possible?

Diane Nicholson

By Diane Nicholson

How about simply letting go of everything that hurts you?…

Because believe it or not, it’s actually our thinking that makes us feel that life so complicated. Not life itself.

All too often we find ourselves hanging on to things and people which deplete our energy. This is a great time to take a really good look at your life and make some powerful decisions for yourself. Have a really good look at everything and everyone in your life, then decide which uplift you, and which hurt or drain you. Once you’ve identified all those which are depleting your energy, then perhaps it’s time to let them go…

Have you ever wondered why you’re choosing to hold on to them after all? Most of us never even contemplate that question. We simply accept them, then wonder why life feels so complicated and painful.

I know on a personal level, particularly over the last year, I have consciously chosen to let go emotionally several times. There was lots of soul-searching, a great deal of picking up the mirror, and in the end, my instincts spoke loud and clear and refused to back down until I took action on them.

They included certain people, certain activities, things we simply didn’t need to do, all of which were having an adverse and cluttering effect on our well-being. The moment we stepped away from them, our personal energy responded immediately, as did the Universe. Quite remarkably so in all honesty.

Letting go includes… Read More →